{"id":11184,"date":"2020-10-07T13:12:14","date_gmt":"2020-10-07T10:12:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/?p=11184"},"modified":"2020-10-07T13:12:14","modified_gmt":"2020-10-07T10:12:14","slug":"de-ai-nostri-mircea-v-homescu-aporii-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/?p=11184","title":{"rendered":"De-ai no\u0219tri! &#8211; Mircea V. Homescu &#8211; Aporii&#8230; (3)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>G\u00c2NDIREA BUN\u0102 CONTRA G\u00c2NDURILOR RELE<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>AUTOSUGESTIE\u2026 DE CE NU?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00cenainte de a aborda problematica \u2013 \u00een sine \u2013 a sugestiei \u015fi autosugestiei (mam\u0103 \u015fi fiic\u0103) a\u015f ruga cititorul s\u0103 suporte \u015fi lectura unui fel de \u201eprolog\u201d explicativ, \u00een nici un caz\u2026 justificativ, prin care voi ar\u0103ta c\u0103 cele dou\u0103 \u201epiese\u201d anterior amintite circul\u0103, ca realitate, prin lume, poate\u2026 de-odat\u0103 cu constatarea nevoii oamenilor de a comunica \u00eentre ei; ini\u0163ial prin gesturi, apoi prin \u201esimboluri\u201d sonore, tot mai amplu r\u0103sp\u00e2ndite, iar \u00een final prin cuv\u00e2nt, forma cea mai deplin\u0103 a conceptului de sens\/simbol. De c\u00e2nd oamenii \u015fi-au dat seama c\u0103 \u00eei pot convinge pe al\u0163ii s\u0103 fac\u0103, sau s\u0103 cread\u0103 ceva anume \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 azi, sugestia a \u00eenregistrat succese, e\u015fecuri, reveniri, dup\u0103 cum spadasinii profesionaliza\u0163i ca sugestioni\u015fti (alias terapeu\u0163i sau dezinforma\u0163ioni\u015fti din lumea murdar\u0103 a politicii) au dansat, pe diagrama acestei activit\u0103\u0163i, de la oameni \u201eminuna\u0163i\u201d \u015fi p\u00e2n\u0103 la \u201emizerabili\u201d; omagiind sau compromi\u0163\u00e2nd tipul de rela\u0163ie interuman\u0103 numit sugestie.<br \/>\n\u00cemi voi permite s\u0103 ocup un sfert de pagin\u0103 doar cu c\u00e2teva nume dintre cei r\u0103ma\u015fi \u00een istoria teoriei \u015fi practicei sugestiei, l\u0103s\u00e2nd cititorului libertatea s\u0103-i considere pe fiecare\u2026 minunat sau mizerabil, dup\u0103 cum se va\u2026 \u00eendura; ordinea nominaliz\u0103rii este oarec\u00e2t cronologic\u0103: Messmer, Faria, Braid, Chertok, Saussure, Pavlov, Liebault, Bernheim, Charcot, Freud, Jung, Adler, Cou\u00e9, De Berne, Klein-Sorge, Kumbies, Spiegel, Freedman, Kaplan, Vogt, Schultz, Luthe, Moreno (n\u0103scut la Bucure\u015fti, apoi plecat \u00een occident), Lippit, White, Tizard, Wolpe, Eysenck, etc. Num\u0103rul impresionant, doar al unei minime frac\u0163iuni dintre cei tenta\u0163i s\u0103 fructifice sugestia (inclusiv \u00eendrumarea c\u0103tre autosugestie\u2026 doar a celor \u201eap\u0163i\u201d) arat\u0103 mai ales rezultatele pozitive ob\u0163inute pe direc\u0163ia dorit\u0103, chiar dac\u0103 sensurile \u201efatale\u201d dintr-o direc\u0163ie, spre \u201eplus\u201d sau \u201eminus\u201d, \u00een\u015felau uneori a\u015ftept\u0103rile. Risipa de nume, cu care mi-am permis s\u0103-mi tratez cititorul, nu este destinat\u0103 s\u0103 v\u0103 arate\u2026 c\u00e2t de de\u015ftept sunt, ci \u2013 exclusiv \u2013 dore\u015fte s\u0103 conving\u0103 \u201epublicul\u201d asupra interesului real, pe care-l merit\u0103 sugestia \u015fi autosugestia, \u00een via\u0163a obi\u015fnuit\u0103. \u00cen ansamblul terminologiei sugestiei \u015fi \u00een subsidiar al autosugestiei, se afl\u0103 multe \u201ezone\u201d confuze. Se \u015ftie \u2013 \u015fi nu se \u015ftie \u2013 c\u0103 \u201eproblema\u201d cuv\u00e2ntului (ca hermeneutic\u0103) este chestiune de timp \u015fi de teorie, cu obliga\u0163ia fiec\u0103ruia de a le individualiza, apoi de a le \u00eemperechea. Dar, mai ales cu obliga\u0163ia de a reu\u015fi \u201erealizarea\u201d incon\u015ftient\u0103 a  ideii, nimic altceva dec\u00e2t scheletul pe care se construie\u015fte sugestia cu ajutorul cuv\u00e2ntului. \u00cen autosugestie, cuv\u00e2ntul \u2013 for\u0163\u0103 determinatoare de idei \u2013 nu merge \u00een afara sinei individului \u2013 superb\u0103 \u201emetafor\u0103\u201d creat\u0103 de C. Noica \u2013 ci se \u00eentoarce \u201e\u00een\u201d sau \u201econtra\u201d noastr\u0103. Schematic \u015fi global, exist\u0103 trei feluri de sugestii: sugestii spontane, sugestii reflectate (ambele autosugestii) \u015fi sugestii provocate (heterosugestii). Pe baza acestei scheme vom putea puncta o serie de idei\/variante.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tNu ne \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2nesc anii aduna\u0163i \u00een rani\u0163a vie\u0163ii tr\u0103ite, c\u00e2t g\u00e2ndurile obsesive c\u0103 \u00eemb\u0103tr\u00e2nim. Doar a\u015fa se explic\u0103 de ce exist\u0103 \u201eb\u0103tr\u00e2ni\u201d de 40 de toamne \u015fi \u201etineri\u201d de 80 de prim\u0103veri. Totul depinde de\u2026 care jum\u0103tate a paharului te afecteaz\u0103: cea plin\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103, sau cea consumat\u0103 deja. S\u0103 fie oare doar o m\u0103runt\u0103 p\u0103c\u0103leal\u0103? S-ar putea, dar dac\u0103 ne \u201eface\u201d bine (sau ne \u201ecade\u201d bine), merit\u0103 s-o facem<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tOmul generos\/altruist g\u0103se\u015fte\/dob\u00e2nde\u015fte, uneori f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 caute, ceea ce zg\u00e2rcitul\/egoistul caut\u0103\u2026 f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 g\u0103seasc\u0103 vreodat\u0103. Vre\u0163i s\u0103 v\u0103 convinge\u0163i dac\u0103 este a\u015fa? \u00cencerca\u0163i \u2013 v\u0103 rog \u2013 s\u0103 fi\u0163i o vreme \u015fi genero\u015fi, c\u0103\u2026 haps\u00e2ni, oricum, suntem din fire!<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tBog\u0103\u0163ia \u00eel g\u0103se\u015fte pe cel ce o g\u00e2nde\u015fte\/a\u015fteapt\u0103, iar s\u0103r\u0103cia pe cel ce se crede \u2013 sau g\u00e2nde\u015fte c\u0103 este \u2013 s\u0103rac. Aidoma se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00eens\u0103 \u015fi cu diverse alternative extreme\/contradictorii. Oricare obsesie sf\u00e2r\u015fe\u015fte prin a se \u201epr\u0103bu\u015fi\u201d peste individul care nu o poate evacua din interiorul sinei lui.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tLua\u0163i aminte, cu aten\u0163ie, cu sinceritate \u015fi cu convingere: atunci c\u00e2nd dou\u0103 persoane convie\u0163uiesc \u2013 nu neap\u0103rat so\u0163 \u015fi so\u0163ie \u2013 concesiile, zise \u201emutuale\u201d, descind totdeauna din partea acelea\u015fi persoane. Mi se pare, oare? Nu, a\u015fa este \u015fi pentru acest motiv am apelat, mai \u00eenainte, la\u2026 sinceritate\/convingere.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tVrei s\u0103 evi\u0163i plictiseala (spleen \u00eei zic englezii)? Confec\u0163ioneaz\u0103-\u0163i c\u00e2teva \u2013 nu doar una \u2013 idei fixe (pseudo-obsesii); c\u00e2nd una te obose\u015fte exagerat\u2026 ia-o la disecat pe cealalt\u0103 \u015fi tot a\u015fa, p\u00e2n\u0103 ce a disp\u0103rut plictisul.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tNu \u015ftiu cum se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 c\u0103 ne g\u00e2ndim la ereditate doar c\u00e2nd ne confrunt\u0103m cu transmisii genetice recesive\/negative \u015fi\u2026 mai niciodat\u0103 c\u00e2nd avem de-a face cu situa\u0163ii pl\u0103cute\/pozitive.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tParadox? Oricine s-a n\u0103scut bogat (nu doar cu bani, ci \u015fi cu talente, valori mintale, etc.) nu \u015ftie (nu-\u015fi d\u0103 seama) ce este aceea bog\u0103\u021bie pe care o are. A\u015fijderea \u015fi cu cel ce s-a n\u0103scut s\u0103n\u0103tos; ignor\u0103 darul imens pe care \u00eel are. Nu este doar un paradox, este\u2026 felul de a fi al omului; fiindc\u0103 numai omul nu poate s\u0103 acorde adev\u0103rata valoare, s\u0103n\u0103t\u0103\u0163ii\u2026 dec\u00e2t dup\u0103 ce a pierdut-o.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tPentru un trai tihnit \u2013 suflete\u015fte mai ales \u2013 face mai mult s\u0103 nu \u015ftii dincotro (de unde) \u0163i-a venit r\u0103ul\/necazul\u2026 \u015fi s\u0103-i faci v\u00e2nt s\u0103 se duc\u0103 aiurea\u2026 dec\u00e2t s\u0103 cuno\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103 nu te mai po\u0163i dezlipi de regretul ghinionului.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tCe via\u0163\u0103 frumoas\u0103 \u015fi u\u015foar\u0103 am tr\u0103i dac\u0103 am putea s\u0103 ne simplific\u0103m complexul problematiz\u0103rilor, \u00een loc s\u0103-l complic\u0103m prin superproblematiz\u0103ri sterile.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tDiferen\u0163e minuscule \u015fi totu\u015fi\u2026 gigantice: stoicii se bazeaz\u0103 pe \u00eenchipuire \u015fi nu zic niciodat\u0103 \u201enu vreau s\u0103 suf\u0103r\u201d, ci direct: \u201enu suf\u0103r\u201d. Ce-ar fi s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m \u015fi varianta aceasta, a optimiz\u0103rii vie\u0163ii, mai ales c\u0103 nu \u201ecost\u0103\u201d dec\u00e2t un pic de imagina\u0163ie\u2026 dar are o mare valoare. Mai \u00eent\u00e2i s\u0103 facem diferen\u0163a dintre cost \u0219i valoare.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tS\u0103 nu ne panic\u0103m (de ce nu, speriem?) prea mult \u00een fa\u0163a unui necaz, ci s\u0103-l constat\u0103m \u2013 doar \u2013 inclusiv efectele lui, apoi s\u0103 ne concentr\u0103m voin\u0163a de a face s\u0103 dispar\u0103 amintirea necazului, adic\u0103 s\u0103 ne c\u0103znim s\u0103 lux\u0103m necazul din conul de aten\u0163ie al con\u015ftiin\u0163ei, undeva \u00een sub(in)con\u015ftient, de unde \u00eel vom disipa, ulterior, cu voin\u0163\u0103 imaginativ\u0103.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tExprimarea tr\u0103deaz\u0103 sub(in)con\u015ftientul cel neclar, falsific\u00e2nd simbolismul fenomenului. De pild\u0103: c\u00e2nd zicem, sau doar g\u00e2ndim, despre ceva\u2026 \u00eencep\u00e2nd cu \u201ea\u015f vrea s\u0103\u2026\u201d, masc\u0103m incon\u015ftient c\u0103, de fapt, suntem convin\u015fi c\u0103 \u201enu putem\u201d \u015fi c\u0103, \u00een realitate, nici m\u0103car nu vrem ceea ce justific\u0103m cu \u201ea\u015f\u2026vrea\u201d. Fermitatea convingerii se exprim\u0103 prin \u201ea\u015f\u2026\u201d, care \u00een mod real \u2013 mascheaz\u0103 pe \u201enu vreau\u201d, \u00eend\u0103r\u0103tul, eventual \u2013 lui \u201enu pot\u201d.    V-au preocupat vreodat\u0103 aceste variante neclare ale interiorului profund \u015fi tulbure?<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tLimpezimea voin\u0163ei \u00eempline\u015fte \u00eenf\u0103ptuirea concret\u0103. C\u00e2nd ceva ne deranjeaz\u0103, s\u0103 nu zicem \u2013 \u015fi nici s\u0103 nu g\u00e2ndim \u2013 \u201ea\u015f \u00eencerca\u201d s\u0103 fac s\u0103 dispar\u0103 suferin\u0163a cutare\u2026 ci s\u0103 g\u00e2ndim direct \u015fi s\u0103 ac\u0163ion\u0103m ferm, prin vreau (nu \u201ea\u015f vrea\u201d) s\u0103 dispar\u0103 suferin\u0163a\/necazul acela. C\u00e2nd exist\u0103 \u00eendoial\u0103, formulat\u0103 prin \u201ea\u015f\u2026\u201d, nu exist\u0103 nici rezultat favorabil.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\t\u00cen ciuda multor aparen\u0163e \u015fi a c\u00e2torva opinii contradictorii, imagina\u0163ia domin\u0103 \u2013 eficace \u015fi pe termen lung \u2013 voin\u0163a; adic\u0103 dispune de putere sugestiv\u0103, superioar\u0103 voin\u0163ei simple. C\u00e2t despre autosugestie, n-ar trebui s\u0103 ignor\u0103m faptul c\u0103 for\u0163a ei o dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fte pe cea a sugestiei exterioare, hetero-direc\u0163ionat\u0103. C\u00e2nd \u201ea voi\u201d se une\u015fte cu \u201ea putea\u201d este imposibil ca scopul s\u0103 nu se realizeze; tocmai \u00een contextul acestui mixaj \u00ee\u015fi exercit\u0103 rolul autosugestia.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tIncon\u015ftientul, prin care opereaz\u0103 autosugestia\/voit\u0103, dirijeaz\u0103 imens de multe compartimente ale vie\u0163ii (interioare), ale fiin\u0163ei omene\u015fti. \u015ei bucuriile dar \u015fi necazurile\u2026 ne stau drept dovad\u0103; se zice c\u0103 cel pu\u0163in jum\u0103tate \u2013 \u015fi dintre bucurii \u015fi dintre necazuri \u2013 noi le proiect\u0103m, le g\u00e2ndim, le a\u015ftept\u0103m sau le provoc\u0103m!<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tPentru a fi conving\u0103tori \u00een fa\u0163a altora, dar \u015fi \u201e\u00een fa\u0163a\u201d noastr\u0103 (cea din interior!), trebuie s\u0103 ne exprim\u0103m prompt, clar, simplu, calm, vorbind pu\u0163in, limpede \u015fi \u2013 strict \u2013 ceea ce trebuie. Logoreea obose\u015fte \u015fi confuzioneaz\u0103 inten\u0163iile \u015fi argumentele vorbitorului \u015fi deruteaz\u0103 r\u0103bdarea ascult\u0103torului.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tS\u0103 deprindem \u201earta\u201d de a ne st\u0103p\u00e2ni\/conduce pe noi, f\u0103r\u0103 m\u00e2nie; m\u00e2nia ne consum\u0103 \u2013 d\u0103un\u0103tor \u2013 stocul de energie interioar\u0103, ne epuizeaz\u0103, nu e folositoare, ci constituie un obstacol \u00een calea reu\u015fitelor. S\u0103 fim fermi, f\u0103r\u0103 oscila\u0163ii \u015fi doar at\u00e2t de d u r i \u2026 c\u00e2t ne trebuie nou\u0103 \u00een\u015fine, f\u0103r\u0103 inten\u0163ia de a-i speria pe al\u0163ii.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tTem\u00e2ndu-ne de ceva anume \u2013 eventual boli, nepl\u0103ceri \u2013 ai \u015fi descoperit\/recunoscut adversarul, iar oricare du\u015fman, odat\u0103 recunoscut (nu doar \u015ftiut), este pe jum\u0103tate\u2026 r\u0103pus. Aten\u0163ie, \u00eens\u0103: \u201ere\u201d, ca prepozi\u0163ie la termenul cunoa\u015ftere \u00eenseamn\u0103 evaluare, stabilire a unei atitudini fa\u0163\u0103 de obiectul cunoscut: acceptare sau respingere.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tNu faci altceva dec\u00e2t s\u0103 te iluzionezi\/p\u0103c\u0103le\u015fti atunci c\u00e2nd e\u015fti, mai convins ca oric\u00e2nd, c\u0103 ai putea s\u0103 fii sigur\/neiluzionat de ceva anume. Precum b\u0103tr\u00e2nii care repet\u0103 insistent c\u0103 n-au fost niciodat\u0103 mai\u2026 tineri dec\u00e2t \u00een acele momente c\u00e2nd vorbesc; asta fiind confirmarea ferm\u0103 c\u0103 scleroza senil\u0103 i-a acaparat \u00een totalitate.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tS\u0103 dispui mereu de fermitatea de a ob\u0163ine ceea ce cau\u0163i \u015fi vei constata c\u0103\u2026 ai ob\u0163inut ce c\u0103utai.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tPentru a deveni st\u0103p\u00e2nul t\u0103u psihologic, este destul s\u0103 g\u00e2nde\u015fti\/dore\u015fti \u015fi \u2013 surprinz\u0103tor \u2013 vei constata c\u0103 ai \u015fi devenit. Poate c\u0103 nu din prima \u00eencercare, dar progresiv, cu siguran\u0163\u0103 se va \u00eendeplini dorin\u0163a.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tAm spus de nenum\u0103rate ori bolnavilor mei, care-\u015fi exprimau entuziast \u00eencrederea \u00een mine (om \u015fi medic), c\u0103 nu \u00een mine, ci \u00een ei \u00een\u015fi\u015fi trebuie s\u0103 cread\u0103; fiindc\u0103 \u00een ei &#8211; \u015fi nu \u00een mine \u2013 se afl\u0103 puterea care la rezolv\u0103 nevoile\/dorin\u0163ele pentru care au apelat la mine. Eu nu am alt merit dec\u00e2t acela de a-i fi \u00eenv\u0103\u0163at s\u0103 se serveasc\u0103 de aceast\u0103 putere. Exact ca \u00een \u201epovestea\u201d cu Iisus \u015fi ologul: nu Iisus, ci credin\u0163a ologului, l-a vindecat.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tAt\u00e2t \u00een \u201efilo\u2026\u201d c\u00e2t \u015fi \u00een \u201eonto\u2026\u201d-genez\u0103, imagina\u0163ia a precedat voin\u0163a. Fiindc\u0103 nu putem dori sau refuza ceva\u2026 ce \u00eenc\u0103 nu am receptat\/ \u00een\u0163eles, cu \u201eunealta\u201d chipului\/imaginii, care confirm\u0103 mintal, recte \u00eenchipuirea evaluant\u0103. Din acelea\u015fi motive, totdeauna a dominat voin\u0163a, apoi dorin\u0163a. Ca s\u0103 vrem\/dorim ceva trebuie ca \u00een prealabil s\u0103 avem imaginea\/chipul acelui ceva. Disciplina individului \u00eencepe cu imagina\u0163ie, opereaz\u0103 cu voin\u0163\u0103 \u015fi culmineaz\u0103 cu dorin\u0163\u0103.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tTot ce ni se pare extraordinar, pare s\u0103 fie astfel \u2013 \u015fi nu obi\u015fnuit\/firesc \u2013 pentru c\u0103 de\u015fi are cauze fire\u015fti, acestea ne sunt necunoscute. Extraordinarul dispare c\u00e2nd i se identific\u0103 \u201er\u0103d\u0103cina\u201d fireasc\u0103\/natural\u0103 \u015fi, de ciud\u0103, nu-l mai consider\u0103m nici m\u0103car normal\/firesc, ci \u00eei zicem\u2026 banal.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tNimic nu este pentru om \u2013 cu caracter definitiv \u2013 din ceea ce apare la prima vedere\/contact\/cunoa\u015ftere, \u00een mod conven\u0163ional; fiindc\u0103 totdeauna mai exist\u0103 \u015fi altceva care pare s\u0103 fie ceea ce vedem la prima percepere \u015fi care nu este cum ni se pare ini\u0163ial. Asta este explica\u0163ia pentru care afirma\u0163iile unor indivizi \u2013 poate cu sinceritate f\u0103cute \u2013 devin contradictorii vis-\u00e0-vis de modul \u00een care al\u0163ii v\u0103d acelea\u015fi situa\u0163ii. Psihiatria \u015fi anchetele  judiciare abund\u0103 \u00een situa\u0163ii de acest gen, \u00een care despre acela\u015fi \u201eobiect\u201d fizic sau factual, trei indivizi, care se declar\u0103 \u201enormali\u201d, furnizeaz\u0103 rela\u0163ii motiva\u0163ionale diferite, sau contradictorii.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tCa s\u0103 fii \u201est\u0103p\u00e2nul\u201d t\u0103u trebuie \u2013 \u00een paralel \u2013 s\u0103 te fi str\u0103duit s\u0103 devii st\u0103p\u00e2nul t\u0103u; ceea ce nu este doar greu, ci \u015fi variabil ca perspectiv\u0103 de realizare.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tAutostimularea cu scopuri profitabile \u2013 autosugestionarea \u2013 este un instrument ca oricare altul de care trebuie, \u00een prealabil, s\u0103 \u00eenve\u0163i a te folosi \u015fi \u2013 doar ulterior  s\u0103-i ceri s\u0103-\u0163i aduc\u0103 servicii\/avantaje, precum dore\u015fti \u015fi speri. O pu\u015fc\u0103 bun\u0103 nu poart\u0103 nici o vin\u0103 dac\u0103 o folose\u015fte o m\u00e2n\u0103 \u015fi un ochi neiscusit \u015fi nu trimite niciodat\u0103 glon\u0163ul unde s-a inten\u0163ionat.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\t\u015ei din nou\u2026 aten\u0163ie la ceea ce urmeaz\u0103. Autosugestia con\u015ftient\u0103 nu d\u0103 niciodat\u0103 rezultate satisf\u0103c\u0103toare c\u00e2nd este folosit\u0103 cu cazn\u0103\/efort\/trud\u0103 \u015fi nu\u2026 lejer. \u00cen asemenea situa\u0163ii satisfac\u0163iile \u00eent\u00e2rzie, sau nu apar. Adic\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd se folose\u015fte, \u00een exces, \u201edoza\u201d de voin\u0163\u0103. A nu se uita \u015fi mai ales  a nu se ignora, c\u0103 autosugestia voluntar\u0103 este cl\u0103dit\u0103 pe imagina\u0163ie \u015fi dorin\u0163\u0103\u2026 ecua\u0163ie pe care am mai formulat-o p\u00e2n\u0103 acum de c\u00e2teva ori.<br \/>\nExist\u0103 o diferen\u0163\u0103 \u00eentre a voi \u015fi a dori. Voim \u2013 ferm \u015fi rigid \u2013 ceva anume \u015fi ob\u0163inem \u2013 mai greu sau mai u\u015for, ceva \u2013 sau nu ob\u0163inem nimic. Dorim \u00eens\u0103 numai atunci c\u00e2nd l\u00e2ng\u0103 voin\u0163\u0103 am adunat \u015fi ceva afec\u0163iune \u015fi pl\u0103cere. Deci: imagina\u0163ie + dorin\u0163\u0103, nu voin\u0163\u0103 dur\u0103\u2026 singur\u0103.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tNu cere\u0163i autosugestiei sa fac\u0103 ce nu poate s\u0103 rezolve instantaneu ce n-au rezolvat alte terapii conven\u0163ionale, \u00eentr-un num\u0103r x de ani. Ea ac\u0163ioneaz\u0103 lent, progresiv, f\u0103r\u0103 \u201esalturi\u201d\u2026 fiindc\u0103 nu poate ie\u015fi din interiorul omului \u00een care deja se afl\u0103, dar\u2026 n-a fost solicitat\u0103 s\u0103 ajute.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tAutosugestia terapeutic\u0103 cuprinde vorbe, incanta\u0163ii (mai rar), mimic\u0103, gesturi, scenete (la fel de rar\u2026), toate cu \u201epor\u0163ia\u201d lor de terapie recuperatoare, din\u2026 derut\u0103 \u015fi instabilitate afectiv-emo\u0163ional\u0103.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tParafraz\u00e2ndu-l pe Buffon \u2013 \u201ele style c`est l`homme\u201d \u2013 noi ar trebui s\u0103 credem  c\u0103: \u201eomul este gr\u0103mada lui de g\u00e2nduri\u201d Teama de e\u015fec\u2026 ne duce la e\u015fec, a\u015fa cum covingerea c\u0103 vom avea succes\u2026 ne aduce succesul; chiar dac\u0103 nu 100%\u2026 m\u0103car 50% \u015fi tot este mai mult dec\u00e2t nimic.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\t\u00cen \u015fedin\u0163ele de psihanaliz\u0103, cu scop sugestivo-terapic sau hipnotic, este necesar\u0103 \u00eencrederea\/convingerea\u2026 at\u00e2t din partea \u201eobiectului\u201d uman pe care se \u201elucreaz\u0103\u201d, c\u00e2t \u015fi din partea profesionistului psihoterapeut; primul, s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 va beneficia de efecte favorabile, al doilea, c\u0103 va reu\u015fi s\u0103 ob\u0163in\u0103 ceea ce inten\u0163ioneaz\u0103. F\u0103r\u0103 aceast\u0103 dubl\u0103 \u00eencredere \u2013 pe care intuitiv fiecare o \u201esimte\u201d la cel\u0103lalt \u2013 totul este\u2026 \u201ev\u00e2nare de v\u00e2nt!\u201d ; fiindc\u0103 \u00een astfel de conjuncturi de transfer de \u201eondula\u0163ii\u201d sugestive, mai pu\u0163in conteaz\u0103 omul \u2013 emi\u0163\u0103tor sau receptor de \u201emesaje\u201d \u2013 c\u00e2t\u2026 respectarea metodei (principiului) conform c\u0103ruia se ac\u0163ioneaz\u0103, dar \u015fi scopul umanizant.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\t\u015ei \u00eenc\u0103 ceva deosebit de important: Nimeni nu ne poate conferi \u201egr\u0103mezi de sugestii pozitive, sau negative\u201d, cu mai mult\u0103 eficacitate dec\u00e2t cele care pleac\u0103\u2026 din noi \u015fi sunt destinate\u2026 nou\u0103; de aici \u015fi periculozitatea acestor autosugestii, atunci c\u00e2nd sunt negative\u2026 distructive\u2026 suicidare.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tAni \u00eendelunga\u0163i s-a crezut c\u0103 sugestia \u015fi autosugestia ar ac\u0163iona doar asupra psihe  \u015fi mai pu\u0163in asupra soma. De-abia de c\u00e2teva decenii oamenii au \u201ere-cunoscut\u201d c\u0103 exist\u0103 efecte \u2013 \u015fi \u00eenc\u0103 multe \u2013 chiar nea\u015fteptate \u2013 \u00een domeniul patologiei somatice (trup material-organic). Exist\u0103 azi terapii hipnotice de care beneficiaz\u0103 anumi\u0163i bolnavi, exclusiv organici\u2026ulcere digestive, paralizii nervoase periferice, constipa\u0163ii rebele, hidronefroze, aritmii cardiace, etc. , ceea ce se ignor\u0103 cu superficialitate \u015fi ignoran\u0163\u0103 orgolioas\u0103. Este cazul ca r\u0103bdarea \u015fi perseveren\u0163a s\u0103 curme aceast\u0103 sfidare egoist\u0103 a somatoterapeu\u0163ilor \u00eempotriva psihoterapeu\u0163ilor.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tNu exist\u0103 sugestie \u015fi autosugestie eficace, f\u0103r\u0103 un teren moral\/psihic optimist. Niciodat\u0103 depresivii nu au \u201eprimit\u201d sugestia \u2013 cu at\u00e2t mai pu\u0163in autosugestia \u2013 ei fiind permanent teroriza\u0163i de propriile obsesii negative.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tRepet, insistent, o afirma\u0163ie formulat\u0103 anterior, anume c\u0103 nu exist\u0103 sugestie eficient\u0103 (inclusiv autosugestie), f\u0103r\u0103 \u00eencredere \u00een ceea ce vrei \u2013 sau \u00eencerci \u2013 s\u0103 ob\u0163ii prin acest procedeu\u2026 vechi \u015fi totu\u015fi insuficient explorat\/valorificat, \u00een spa\u0163iul generos dintre\u2026 inten\u0163ie \u015fi \u00eent\u00e2mplare; totul este construit pe generozitate, dar \u015fi pentru \u2013 m\u0103car un pic de \u2013 interes pentru binele altuia\u2026 c\u0103 de dorin\u0163ele noastre, \u00een beneficiul nostru, ar cam fi cazul\u2026 s\u0103 ne fi s\u0103turat.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tReu\u015fita transferului de \u00eendemnuri, stiluri \u015fi metode, spre\u2026 el (altul) se bazeaz\u0103 pe siguran\u0163\u0103 de sine, ton vocal agreabil \u015fi exprimare afirmativ\u0103, lipsit\u0103 de nega\u0163ii \u015fi contradic\u0163ii\u2026 ceea ce nu este totdeauna u\u015for de realizat.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tCa s\u0103 ai succes, cu oferta ta de sugestionare asupra \u201einteriorului\u201d fiin\u0163ei suferindului, care este convins \u015fi sus\u0163ine vehement c\u0103 sufer\u0103 (nevroticii au o sadic\u0103 pl\u0103cere s\u0103 declare c\u0103 sufer\u0103 permanent) s\u0103 nu-i bruschezi \u201epreferin\u0163a\u201d (suferin\u0163a imaginar\u0103), s\u0103-l asiguri c\u0103 vrei s\u0103-l aju\u0163i s\u0103 ias\u0103 din suferin\u0163\u0103. P\u0103trunzi astfel \u00een locul unde se afl\u0103 receptivitatea lui (sediul imaginar al \u201edurerii\u201d lui) \u015fi-i strecori acolo argumentele, alias procedeele pe care le propui pentru anihilarea suferin\u0163ei\u2026 real\u0103 sau doar \u00eenchipuit\u0103. Niciodat\u0103 nu trebuie contrazis\u0103 \u201econvingerea\u201d bolnavului despre \u201esuferin\u0163a\u201d lui. Altfel \u00eei \u201epierzi\u201d colaborarea \u015fi va refuza \u2013 din \u201einterior\u201d \u2013 s\u0103 recep\u0163ioneze ceea ce inten\u0163ioneaz\u0103 sugestionistul s\u0103-i transmit\u0103.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tPseudoconcluzie! Cu c\u00e2t \u201emergi\u201d mai ad\u00e2nc \u015fi mai mult (\u00een timp) pe calea influen\u0163ei psihosugestive asupra altuia, cu at\u00e2t vezi mai clar \u015fi mai mult \u2013 \u201e\u015fi lateral \u015fi \u00een profunzime\u201d \u2013 \u00een fiecare, dar\u2026 uneori \u015fi \u00een tine.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tLimbajul cel mai conving\u0103tor nu este tonul ridicat, ci tonul \u201ejos\u201d, specific celor ce sunt obi\u015fnui\u0163i s\u0103 fie asculta\u0163i<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tEste enorm\u0103 diferen\u0163a dintre a voi \u015fi a dori\u2026 am mai spus-o! C\u00e2nd voie\u015fti ceva \u015fi nu \u015ftii cum, procedezi tactico-strategic, fiindc\u0103 voin\u0163a e\u015fuat\u0103 poate s\u0103-\u0163i devin\u0103 du\u015fman aprig. C\u00e2nd dore\u015fti, \u00eempreun\u0103 cu o \u201erecolt\u0103\u2019 \u00eentreag\u0103 de adjuvan\u0163i, care se afl\u0103 \u00een umbra dorin\u0163ei, reu\u015fe\u015fti f\u0103r\u0103\u2026 s\u0103-\u0163i dai seama care a fost \u201esecretul\u201d succesului. Oricum, \u00een preajma dorin\u0163ei s-a aflat mereu \u00een \u00eenchipuirea\/improviza\u0163ia\/intui\u0163ia crea\u0163ionist\u0103, izbucnit\u0103 instinctual \u015fi sigur incon\u015ftient.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tElogiul este un stimulent \u2013 \u00een principiu \u2013 dar\u2026 f\u0103r\u0103 exager\u0103ri. Repro\u015ful este \u2013 \u015fi el \u2013 un altfel de stimulent\u2026 strict individual \u015fi discret. Prin insisten\u0163\u0103 repro\u015ful poate s\u0103 devin\u0103\u2026 paralizant; chiar c\u00e2nd repro\u015f\u0103m\u2026 s\u0103 folosim o exprimare \u201etangen\u0163ial\u0103\u2019, nu \u0163intit\u0103, de pild\u0103: mi se pare, sau: nu crezi c\u0103\u2026? Altfel, s-ar putea s\u0103\u2026 sar\u0103 sc\u00e2ntei.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tAten\u0163ie la indivizii care \u00ee\u015fi formuleaz\u0103 suferin\u0163ele: de cele mai multe ori, c\u0103ut\u00e2ndu-le, ei inventeaz\u0103\/creeaz\u0103, ad-hoc, foarte multe \u201eformule\u201d, construindu-le f\u0103r\u0103 a fi existat \u00een \u201erepertoriul\u201d lor lingvistic \u015fi f\u0103r\u0103 nici o leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu presupusa suferin\u0163\u0103. Dac\u0103     n-ar fi trebuit s\u0103 \u201espun\u0103\u201d de ce anume sufer\u0103, n-ar fi \u201e\u015ftiut\u201d cum se nume\u015fte \u201esuferin\u0163a\u201d lor.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tS\u0103 nu ignor\u0103 \u015fi s\u0103 nu minimaliz\u0103m \u2013 sau mai grav, s\u0103 nu neg\u0103m \u2013 c\u0103 tot ce g\u00e2ndim devine realitate, destul de frecvent. De aceea\u2026 s\u0103 nu g\u00e2ndim niciodat\u0103\u2026 r\u0103u, fiindc\u0103 ceva r\u0103u ni se va \u00eent\u00e2mpla.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\tA pretinde c\u0103 odat\u0103 cu cre\u015fterea num\u0103rului anilor v\u00e2rstei cresc \u015fi\u2026 puterile, pare un paradox ridicol; \u015fi totu\u015fi a\u015fa este, dar \u00een plan simbolic, moral. Cre\u015fte o anume putere, cea spiritual\u0103, eventual prestan\u0163a \u015fi competen\u0163a ra\u0163ional\u0103, dar \u2013 mai ales \u2013 \u201ebagajul\u201d experien\u0163ei, pe care doar tu\u2026 e\u015fti cel ce o va folosi\u2026 \u00een\u0163elep\u0163e\u015fte sau ridicol.<br \/>\n\uf0d8\t\u00cen context de autosugestie se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 foarte des s\u0103 ne \u00eenchipuim ni\u015fte suferin\u0163e\/simptome ale bolii pe care credem c\u0103 o avem (simptomele le poveste\u015fte bolnavul, semnele le descoper\u0103 medicul). Iat\u0103 \u2013 a\u015fadar \u2013 o posibilitate de a ne \u00eemboln\u0103vi, noi singuri, de boala pe care credem c\u0103 o avem. Bref\u2026 cu dou\u0103 cuvinte-simbol, numai, CRED \u015fi \u00ceMI \u00ceNCHIPUI, devenim bolnavi, exclusiv prin autosugestie negativ\u0103. Ce-ar fi dac\u0103, folosind aceea\u015fi \u201etehnologie\u201d sugestiv\u0103, dar \u00een sens pozitiv, am viza ob\u0163inerea unui rezultat favorabil\/pl\u0103cut \u015fi nu unul morbid? Iat\u0103 ce poate autosugestia, f\u0103r\u0103 efort \u00eenver\u015funat, ci doar\u2026 dorind. Oricare \u00eencr\u00e2ncenare, cu scopul de for\u0163a imagina\u0163ia, este contrarie scopului\/inten\u0163iei finale. Putem doar c\u00e2nd \u015fi dac\u0103 g\u00e2ndim c\u0103 putem \u015fi dac\u0103 dorim. For\u0163\u00e2ndu-ne\u2026risc\u0103m s\u0103 e\u015fu\u0103m. Imagina\u0163ia\/ \u00eenchipuirea este superioar\u0103 voin\u0163ei \u015fi dep\u0103\u015fe\u015fte adesea dorin\u0163a (un fel de voin\u0163\u0103, \u201efardat\u0103\u201d cu afec\u0163iune\/satisfac\u0163ie). Ca s\u0103 reu\u015fim \u00een autosugestie, dar \u015fi sugestion\u00e2ndu-i pe al\u0163ii, trebuie s\u0103 fim convin\u015fi c\u0103 este posibil s\u0103 ne \u201emont\u0103m\u201d \u00een\u2026 spirit\u2026 f\u0103r\u0103 eforturi, ideea pe care dorim s-o avem (sau s-o transmitem), baza\u0163i pe convingerea c\u0103 a\u015fa-ceva este posibil, f\u0103r\u0103 exces de efort, conjug\u00e2nd \u2013 succesiv \u2013 la trei timpi, verbul a putea, astfel: POT fiindc\u0103 AM PUTUT \u015fi alt\u0103 dat\u0103 \u015fi VOI PUTEA \u015fi \u00een viitor.<\/p>\n<p>*  *  *<br \/>\nAcum, dup\u0103 ce am \u00eencheiat ultima fil\u0103 a divaga\u0163iilor mele, cu iz de\u2026 apoftegme, cititorul ar trebui s\u0103 zic\u0103: cum dracu` m-a p\u0103c\u0103lit acesta (adic\u0103 eu) cu p\u0103s\u0103relile lui, pe care \u2013 de fapt \u2013 le cam \u015ftiam?! Da, iubite cititor, le \u015ftiai,  dar le-ai uitat. Eu mi-am \u00eeng\u0103duit, doar, s\u0103 \u0163i le amintesc, sper\u00e2nd c\u0103 vei folosi m\u0103car 5% dintre ele, c\u00e2nd vei crede de cuviin\u0163\u0103 s\u0103 le pui \u00een ac\u0163iune.<br \/>\nS\u0103 ne desp\u0103r\u0163im pre\u0163uind, c\u00e2t merit\u0103, adev\u0103rata apoftegm\u0103 a lui S. Freud: \u201es\u0103 ie\u015fim din pumnul de ap\u0103 al con\u015ftiin\u0163ei omene\u015fti \u015fi s\u0103 prospect\u0103m oceanul  incon\u015ftientului, plin de inimaginabile surprize\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>G\u00c2NDIREA BUN\u0102 CONTRA G\u00c2NDURILOR RELE AUTOSUGESTIE\u2026 DE CE NU? \u00cenainte de a aborda problematica \u2013 \u00een sine \u2013 a sugestiei<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":11138,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"colormag_page_container_layout":"default_layout","colormag_page_sidebar_layout":"default_layout","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"video_url":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[7,320],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11184"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=11184"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11184\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11185,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11184\/revisions\/11185"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/11138"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=11184"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=11184"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ziarulderimnic.ro\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=11184"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}